15th October 2004
To my beloved sons:
Kong Chong, Kong Hin, and Kong Bing
Dear Sons,
Some more thoughts that cross my mind.
On being generous and disciplined
Greatness is: "Think not of the kindnesses you have shown others but do not for one moment forget even one single act of kindness you have been shown and benefited from. "
Modern day meaning: Because others do not say "thank you" for what you have done for them, it does not mean that you have to descend to the same level of poor social behaviour and forget to say your own " thank you" to someone who had rendered you help or done you a favour. By being generous and disciplined at the same time, you are in charge of yourself, as you are then at peace with the world and with yourself .
On being forgiving and unburdening yourself
Because to forgive the unkind is divine, it is in practice very difficult to achieve the aim in its completeness. So try to forgive as best you can and forget any unkindness done to you, so that you will have no burden of bitterness to carry all through your lives (from what I have experienced).
On brotherly relations
Brothers are like fruits from the same tree. Wish your brothers well always, and treat them and their wives and their children with kindness. Harbour no illwill or jealousy or prejudices towards them and you will have sown seeds of good fortune for your own children and your grandchildren in the years to come (From real life examples I have seen and witnessed).
As my father and your grandfather once said, wish others well and you will be well. What more with your own brothers.
Nothing makes us parents happier than to see you our beloved sons loving and caring towards one another, and rendering help at one another' s hour of needs. But a word of caution will not be out of place. Be mindful and guard against everyday language and remarks that are hurtful or less than kind, intended or unintended, let alone speaking ill of your brothers, so that a harmonious and enduring brotherly relationship can be forged, nurtured, and preserved for life. Too often, resentments (often suppressed), and unnecessary conflicts are sparked off by thoughtless little acts and habits such as fault-finding and unrestrained criticism of others, fairly or unfairly, without regard of the feelings of those at the receiving end. So avoid these pitfalls and a happy relationship is assured. The wise words:
To my beloved sons:
Kong Chong, Kong Hin, and Kong Bing
Dear Sons,
Some more thoughts that cross my mind.
On being generous and disciplined
Greatness is: "Think not of the kindnesses you have shown others but do not for one moment forget even one single act of kindness you have been shown and benefited from. "
Modern day meaning: Because others do not say "thank you" for what you have done for them, it does not mean that you have to descend to the same level of poor social behaviour and forget to say your own " thank you" to someone who had rendered you help or done you a favour. By being generous and disciplined at the same time, you are in charge of yourself, as you are then at peace with the world and with yourself .
On being forgiving and unburdening yourself
Because to forgive the unkind is divine, it is in practice very difficult to achieve the aim in its completeness. So try to forgive as best you can and forget any unkindness done to you, so that you will have no burden of bitterness to carry all through your lives (from what I have experienced).
On brotherly relations
Brothers are like fruits from the same tree. Wish your brothers well always, and treat them and their wives and their children with kindness. Harbour no illwill or jealousy or prejudices towards them and you will have sown seeds of good fortune for your own children and your grandchildren in the years to come (From real life examples I have seen and witnessed).
As my father and your grandfather once said, wish others well and you will be well. What more with your own brothers.
Nothing makes us parents happier than to see you our beloved sons loving and caring towards one another, and rendering help at one another' s hour of needs. But a word of caution will not be out of place. Be mindful and guard against everyday language and remarks that are hurtful or less than kind, intended or unintended, let alone speaking ill of your brothers, so that a harmonious and enduring brotherly relationship can be forged, nurtured, and preserved for life. Too often, resentments (often suppressed), and unnecessary conflicts are sparked off by thoughtless little acts and habits such as fault-finding and unrestrained criticism of others, fairly or unfairly, without regard of the feelings of those at the receiving end. So avoid these pitfalls and a happy relationship is assured. The wise words:
succinctly sum up the essentials of this precious relationship.
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